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So I often read that lack of object constancy is what lies at the heart of BPD & NPD. I just wonder if there is a thing where you can have too much object constancy and it makes it very hard to move on?
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I think there is such a thing as too much object constancy. I'm not certain but that may be enmeshment. I can see how that would make it very hard to move on. If there is a lot of it and then it's gone, I would think that it may leave a feeling of emptiness.
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Very interesting hypothesis. My father and his sister are/were like that. Totally unable to move on from things both emotional or physical. They can go on for hours about small perceived offences from years ago. They can't let go of relationships or objects. Both of them are estranged to some degree or another from family and both hoard. I have to ponder this concept of too much object constancy. They both openly grieve(d) losses from decades ago. Lamenting over and over about some person, place or thing they no longer have. Its so odd. Thanks for giving me the concept to mull over.
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