Girlfriend recently diagnosed with BPD

[mweezy53]

Trying to be more supportive and learn ways to better our relationship and understanding BPD more. I am diagnosed Bipolar about a year ago. Its hard not to feel guilty like I am always in the wrong.

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[NGU]

Hi mweezy.

This is your first post, so I only have a couple sentences of information to go on. Knowing that... .

How are you doing on your end? Navigating a significant other with a BPD diagnosis can be easier if you have a good handle on yourself.
For example, I became a fan of the "fix yourself first" concept after attending months of weekly group CBT sessions. Helped quite a bit, considering how many curve balls my wife can throw me when she's in a bad place.

-ngu 

[Mutt]

Hi mweezy53,



I’d like to join NGU and welcome you to the family. You’ve come to the right place, I can understand how frustrating and difficult it can feel when we’re blamed for everything wrong in the r/s. Can you tell us a little bit more? Fir example what are the issues that you’re facing right now? It helps to talk.

[Speck]

Welcome, mweezy53!

 

Let me welcome you here to the forums, and wish for you as much help and support as I have received.  As you look around, you may find you have a lot in common with many of us here. This is a community where we help each other, so I'm sure if you keep posting and reading you will find it helpful to you.

There are some helpful lessons to your right to further edify you as you learn to be supportive of your pwBPD.

I think a good way to start is to tell us about yourself - whatever you are comfortable telling us - and about the person you are referring to.

Mostly we are here because someone in our lives has behaviors that are characteristic of BPD. They haven't all been officially diagnosed with BPD, but it's the behaviors, and how we deal with them, that is important.

Keep writing, keep learning!


-Speck