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« on: February 20, 2018, 07:02:59 AM »

Hello,

Now that I have let go of my BPD partner and no longer am I trying to save my relationship, I am focusing on healing myself and addressing my feelings. I am in the process of separating from my partner.

I wrote this poem while sitting on my desk and wanted to share with you all


I am scared. I am broken and numb
But I am not dead. I am still alive
Let me shed this rotting skin of abuse
And into the sea of freedom I will dive

Today I tell myself I have nobody
But a broken heart and your blame
Even I can smell my severe burns
But this phoenix will rise from the flame

I cannot change my past. I know now.
Nothing can take away this pain
But through the holes of my soul
Peek and watch my strength regain

I will start again from the wreckage
My ship has sunk but not my heart
But if you keep your eyes on the sky
One day like a rocket you will see me dart

And you will know what you let go
Thank you so much for destroying me
It made me see that here I do not fit
So today I break those chains and go free
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« Reply #1 on: February 20, 2018, 09:07:52 AM »

Very nice, SS26. I especially like the reference to the Phoenix. Coincidentally, I’ve been writing a song in my head titled Phoenix. If it ever becomes anything, I’ll be sure to share it.
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« Reply #2 on: February 20, 2018, 09:47:40 AM »

Thanks for Sharing SS26, writing is for some a good way to process loss and heal up. Keep that inspiration going!

Don't mean to be rude and hijack a thread like this.
Talking about poems and writing, I was listening to the lyrics of a song... .well quite a popular hit these days, and i just went... .damn... just sends me the BPD red flags all over.

Here is the first part of the song and course the link below

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SA7AIQw-7Ms


"Cross my heart, hope to die
To my lover, I'd never lie
He said "be true", I swear I'll try
In the end, it's him and I
He's out his head, I'm out my mind
We got that love, the crazy kind
I am his and he is mine
In the end, it's him and I, him and I"

That kinda sums up my love experience for a while.
Until well, in the end it was neither her nor I.

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« Reply #3 on: February 20, 2018, 10:18:53 AM »

Wow, smart storm.  Thank you for sharing that lovely poem.  As spero suggests, expressive writing is a great way to process trauma, resolve issues and build resilience.  There's a book out there, Expressive Writing, by James Pennebaker, that addresses the medical research behind the process.

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« Reply #4 on: February 20, 2018, 11:55:05 AM »

Hello,

Now that I have let go of my BPD partner and no longer am I trying to save my relationship, I am focusing on healing myself and addressing my feelings. I am in the process of separating from my partner.

I wrote this poem while sitting on my desk and wanted to share with you all. Also congratulations on being free.


I am scared. I am broken and numb
But I am not dead. I am still alive
Let me shed this rotting skin of abuse
And into the sea of freedom I will dive

Today I tell myself I have nobody
But a broken heart and your blame
Even I can smell my severe burns
But this phoenix will rise from the flame

I cannot change my past. I know now.
Nothing can take away this pain
But through the holes of my soul
Peek and watch my strength regain

I will start again from the wreckage
My ship has sunk but not my heart
But if you keep your eyes on the sky
One day like a rocket you will see me dart

And you will know what you let go
Thank you so much for destroying me
It made me see that here I do not fit
So today I break those chains and go free


That’s great. It would be helpful to have a collection of pieces from people who have been through this.
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