Not giving up

[Potatosalad]

Hi,

I’m glad to have found this board. A few months ago I had no idea of BPD.

I met my girlfriend about two years ago and the relationship has been turbulent to say the least. I guess I should have seen it when the crazy accusations and threats started, but as it turns out, she fell pregnant.

Fast forward 16 months and we have a beautiful daughter but the insults, threats and abuse towards me has only got worse.

I’m so worried that this behavior and the exposure to pain will effect our daughter.

Any advice on who to contact about this?

I could take the pain on my own shoulders but cannot allow this to happen to a young innocent child.

Thanks. X

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[babyducks]

Hi Potatosalad,

Welcome to bpdfamily.  Nice to have you with us.

You mentioned that a few months ago you had no idea of BPD.  Do you mind me asking how you found out about BPD?

I had never heard of personality disorders, never mind BPD, until one day I was randomly doing a google search trying to figure out what the heck was going on in my relationship when BPD popped up.   It was an eye opening moment.    It turned my thinking on it's head.


The insults, threats and abuse have gotten worse?    Since your daughter was born?   I am glad you are focusing on your daughter, on how to raise a resilient and strong child.  That is something many members struggle with.    If you haven't already found them I would point out the lessons that run down the right hand side of the screen.    They are a great place to jump in and start to learn.     


Can you say more about who you would like to contact and what goals you might have from that contact?    What would you like to see happen in the next couple of months with this new understanding you have?

'ducks