Adult son living with me again. He is nice, then screams, yells, and curses.

[Gardenia16]

We don't fit into any above- mentioned categories.  My son is 56 yo; I am 76 yo widow. He has come back to live w/me after being removed from an apartment program where he lived for a few yrs.  Help!  It's horrible.  He will be nice and caring for a couple of days & scream & yell & curse at  me on the next.  He was diagnosed w/schizoaffective disorder.  I've been reading abt BPD and some of the traits sound like him.  He is totally dependent on me.  What do I do at this point in time?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[heartandwhole]

Hi Gardenia16,



Welcome to the community. I'm sorry to hear that having your son at home again has been horrible. I can imagine that the disruptive behavior is very stressful for you.

Why was he removed from the apartment program?

Keep posting and let us know your story. You'll find members here who understand. We're here to support you. 

heartandwhole

[Mutt]

Hi Gardenia16, 



I'd like to join heartandwhole and welcome you to bpdfamily. I'm glad that you have found us there is hope. I'm sorry to hear that your S56 is back home and is giving you a hard time. I'd like to echo heartandwhole why was he removed from the program if he was in it for a few years? Is he employed?  You're not alone.

[Feeling Better]

Hi Gardenia16

I would like to join heartandwhole and Mutt in welcoming you here and to say how sorry I am to hear of what brings you here. You will find lots of help and support.

You say that your son is totally dependent on you. In what way?