Mother's Day

[HopeAndDream]

Hi there I am a parent of an adult child with BPD.  My daughter and I are barely speaking at this point and she has cut ties with all the family members on my side.  Her brother and her have not spoken in almost a year.  My daughter has gone from 0 to 60 in little over a year.  She is now divorced from her husband of not even 5 five years (two children ages 3 and 4) my granddaughters whom I adore... She has recently become engaged to the man with whom she was having an affair 4 months after the divorce and had quit three jobs in the last 6 months and is currently unemployed.  My head just spins when I think of all that has happened to our family in the last year.  I am currently in counseling and so is my son (separate counselors) but some days I am just consumed with this whole situation.  I have recently written a letter to her and of course got no response.  I am looking for any coping tools and advice with regards to this situation and if and when do I or can I approach my daughter?  There is a whole lot more to my story but thought I would start out with the root of the issue as to why we are where we are right now.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Feeling Better]

 

I just want to welcome you and let you know that you are not alone, my uBPD son has been NC (no contact) with me for over a year now and there are other parents on here who will be able to relate too.

It is so very hard being a parent to a pwBPD, we all here know what you are going through and can help and support you.

It is good to hear that you are in counselling, that is an excellent way of helping you with your own self care. I have just finished my own counselling sessions and I have found that it has helped me a lot.

A good place to start learning is via the TOOLS which can be found over on the right 
Don’t React, Respond with S.E.T., you might find that one useful right now.

Look forward to reading more of your story whenever you feel ready to share x