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[roadtorecovery]

After another blow up by my now 27 year old, first born, a friend loaned me a book about BPD. Wow! Now it all makes sense! We've been walking through those poppy fields (in the movie before getting to the castle) and were all confused by her raging and outbursts. She has two very normal sibs and had a very loving upbringing. I divorced my husband 7 yrs ago. At that point I was told that I "ruined her life".  We have been talking weekly since her last outburst at Christmas. Last  week's episode was the final straw. Her younger sister was visiting her in the mid west. The BPD child blew up and threw her out on the streets at 2am in a town she was unfamiliar with.  Enough already!

Happy to be on the road to recovery.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[wendydarling]

Hello roadtorecovery

 

Welcome to the family.  I’m glad you found us and look forward to hearing more from you. It is a wow just like you say, reading a book on BPD can be like they’ve written about our child, some of the behaviours.

That must have been terribly frightening for your younger daughter to be thrown out by her raging sister in an unfamiliar place in the small hours of the morning. I hope your younger daughter is ok.

You’ll receive huge support from parents here, we are family and as you’ll see there are tons of resources that’ll help you through.  

The ‘final straw’, what do you mean, sounds like you are going to take some action?

WDx

[Merlot]

Hi roadtorecovery

Along with Wendydarling, I welcome you to the bpdfamily

It's wonderful when you read something that validates your experience, and gives reason and clarity to some of the confusion and fear associated with violent outbursts.  Have you been able to talk about this to your younger daughter, it will be important for her to understand and therefore be able to de-personalise some of her sister's anger and behaviour.

My BPD daughter who is 27, had violent rages as well and it truly is scary.  I have recently read Shari Manning's book; Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder and it was extremely helpful.

As Wendydarling says, engaging with others really helps enormously, i have certainly found that here as does having a range of support options.  You say you are divorced, do you have other family that you can talk to?

We look forward to hearing from you.

Regards
Melot