Thisnthat
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
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« on: June 24, 2018, 12:00:22 PM » |
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I think my ex has BPD, a male, at work. relationship lasted only a year ended ugly. I have tried to have a closure, but everything has been since after first 1 month so confusing. He was not possessive, had 10 year relationship before me and some brief ones . EX said that he has some emotional issues , and their family has arguing no hugging style, mum never read him books as child. But still, committed and kind, but something was off and she grew out of the relationship. Im more assertive, so my ex was always yelling and annoyed at me when I wouldnt take his crap , when on the otherhand he fought with his ex calmly annoying her so she would trough things. ETc , etc, . He was not verbally abusive, emotionally. Its was so confusing, I would rather and have been with an obviously jealous, violent (yet more emphatic, caring... paradoxically) crazy, its not confusing,it is obvious , and i just left and i was then only 23, now 38... .
Anyway, i have done so many emotional abuse tests and plus what the ex so its clear the relationship was off, still have my doubts is it me etc, but still.
My question is? Thus he never really talked about anything, I do not now him actually at all. He always said , that I snoop things at his house... .I did not. He had briefly a key to my appartment, but after a fight i got it back, weirdly i felt at ease about it. Dunno why. I never locked my phone/tablet there ( his was always locked) And out of conviency at for respect for his privacy i asked a user account to his computer.
He was not obviosly jealous, obsessed etc, but after a break up especially when i finally tried goin on a date trough tinder, messages dissappeared from facebook messenger (between me and him) then my google account showed i was in places (when usually it does not record my goings)when I was not. I sen whatsapp messages to my outlook email, they dissappeared too, also I tried to download facebook data, managed to get some, but most of them diappeared. Also, i get phone bills when i have prepaid. my bank account shows devices and "mobilekeys" I have not set. and now I notice obviosly my phones have users I cannot remove.Also will not reboot, cause its evidence , I have filed a charge. No one else has had the opportunity to use my bank information, and he has had acces to them and its a electronical ID... .so he has had the opportunity to follow my moves etc... .this feeel so so so nasty and horrific. I never shared them with him, but the bank account info was on my phone. I trusted, who would do such thing, like i said he was confusingly abusive, not obbsessive.
Is it possible, that even he does not harass me, (he has been caught reading my messages twice though, but i just laughed one them off, the other one was in the very beginning, and did not ask about it after he said something that made me suspect since it kind of was true, but I was not cheating, and still we had known then only 2 weeks) that he has spied me troughoute our relationship, and even more after break up? Can that kind of behaviour be possible, even when I never thought that would happen. Covert obsession or something. I was doing better , when i noticed these things, and I have asked him twice, he denies and blames me for stressing him, and said that go to a professional... .and obviously somehome knows when i purposley test his jealousy, that im not serious. Now I removed my tinder , that I have not used, decided to open it again but with a phonenumber, not via facebook. He is in tinder , im sure, when I re appear there with a new profile, he might react. setting a bait. But then again, the bank, bills, phones are evidence enough. But is it possible, even when I never thought he could go that far in a million years?
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