.Please help

[amybdp]

Hello, I'm new here. I have BPD and i'm in therapy at the moment for it. I need online support to talk about BPD as i feel alone. My partner is about to leave me because of my behaviour. I feel hopeless that i won't recover or get well and end my life as i can't cope being me. I look forward to being connected on here. Thanks for hearing me. Amy

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[pearlsw]

Hi amyBPD,

I am sorry to hear that you are in a crisis in your current relationship.

This website is for people who are in relationships (romantic or familial) with people who have BPD or BPD traits. Is the person you are in a relationship someone who has BPD or BPD traits too?

The information and discussions here could be triggering for someone who themselves has BPD or BPD traits, so that is something to keep in mind if you are involved with someone, but if that is the case please let us know more about your story and what is going on currently.

There are places online that are explicitly set up for those who have BPD themselves where you would be able to find some support if you are not yourself relating with someone who has BPD.

wishing you the best, pearl.

[CryWolf]

Welcome Amy,

It is very brave you have come here to look for help.

Would you like to discuss the behaviors you exhibit that hurts your partner?

I’d like to join Pearl, and let you know it is okay to share with us. We are here to help in any way possible. You are not alone.

[Enabler]

Amy,

You have made the biggest and the bravest step towards helping yourself recover, by admitting you have a problem. Well done. Building on your self awareness and learning how and when you can control your emotions such that YOU and the people around you can live happier lives. It's great that you are seeing a therapist and working with them, this is your best chance of recovery.

We would of course love to help support you and your partner in the best way possible... .that way is likely to be working with your partner to help them understand the disorder better, share experiences and give them a space to unravel. What your partner chooses to do is there choice and they may have found another better resource that works for them.

I wish you all the best in your journey. I'm hopeful for you... .YOU can do it 

[isilme]

Hi Amy,

I just wanted to repeat what everyone has already said - it takes a lot for anyone to be ready to work on them - it's what is encouraged here for the non-BPD partner in the relationship as much as the person who has BPD.  Both sides need to find a balance, and that means both people need to work, together, to solve that equation.

I hope we hear how you are doing, how things are going, and wish you the best.