Are you "caretaking" or "caring"? And what's the difference?

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Now I make myself wait and see if someone needs my help or not.  

Good advice, Mustbe! Recently I've asked my husband if he wanted help on a couple of occasions before automatically trying to be helpful. To my surprise, he said "No."   

Here I thought I was being a good partner, kind and helpful. Probably to him, I was overstepping boundaries and being invalidating.

[Cat Familiar]

Now I make myself wait and see if someone needs my help or not.  

Good advice, Mustbe! Recently I've asked my husband if he wanted help on a couple of occasions before automatically trying to be helpful. To my surprise, he said "No."   

Here I thought I was being a good partner, kind and helpful. Probably to him, I was overstepping boundaries and being invalidating.

[Mustbeabetterway]

Thanks, cat

Thanks, cat

[Mustbeabetterway]

Good morning, bpdfamily,

I know some of us feel the need to “rescue” others, especially our SO, from natural consequences.  Here is an article that may be of interest by the authors of the book Boundaries

The Law of Reaping and Sowing
Dr. Henry Cloud and John Townsend
June 10, 2016

Just google it if you are interested.  If you read the article, perhaps we could start another thread about consequences.  What do you think?

It also says to me that I should choose my actions carefully, because actions lead to natural consequences.  Comments?

Peace and blessings,

Mustbe