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Author Topic: It is taking a lot of re-acquainting with myself  (Read 1268 times)
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« Reply #30 on: October 26, 2018, 01:35:34 PM »

Hi allienoah,

I know that it’s tough letting go of a loved one especially fur caretakers like us some people it doesn’t phase them I don’t understand that just like they probably don’t understand why caretakers care so much.

It takes time to get used to this really if it helps any letting go can lead the person to a path where they can help themselves. Is it an act of cruelty? What I mean is if some pwBPD choose to finally get help and commit to it it’s because they’ve hit their rock bottom.

For example he wants rescue from his current situation that he created himself if you rescue it fixes the problem is the problem going to come back again? Absolutely and he’ll want you to fix it again only he can help himself and if less people are there to fix his problems then there may be a real chance that he’ll get help. Leave him in his current situation that’s from his own doing he’s not going to learn otherwise.
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