Son acting really great after meds.

[Dagrwriter]

My son is in his late 20s. Convinced him to see psychiatrist and counselor after years and years. DiagnosedPTSD but meets all criteria of BPD. He’s great at not being “himself” (honest) with others so psychiatrist would not have known all symptoms. Son uses marijuana to self medicate despite my Irving’s against this. PDoc prescribed Remeron for himsince he has lost weight and doesn’t sleep. I haven’t seen him in a few days. Today I don’t recognize him. He is acting stable! Calm, no anger, not using f word every other word. Not ranting, screaming, blaming, freaking out at any little thing. I actually spoke to him for an hour with no “episodes.”  He still is a little irritable-still has paranoia. But I feel like I have my son back. Ironically, I’m more afraid. Why is this happening? Could it be the meds-2 weeks on Remeron? He’s actually gaining weight and looks healthy. Got a part time job! Could it be that he is getting better? Or does he have split personalities and just reverted into a different person? I’m so afraid to hope.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Feeling Better]

Hello Dagrwriter 

Wow! Well done you for managing to convince your son to seek help. My son used to often tell me that he was going to see a doctor but whenever I’d ask him if he’d made an appointment he always used to say that he felt better and didn’t need to go. As time progressed he just went into complete denial that there was anything wrong with him, so the fact that you got your son to seek help, I think is amazing.

I completely understand why you are now feeling cautious, wondering whether the change in your son is down to his change in meds or something else. It’s still early days on the meds but they do appear to be having a positive effect. I think all you can do is wait and see. Hopefully the meds are working, please keep us posted on his progress x 

[Merlot]

Hi Dagwriter

That is really wonderful news for both of you. When people are clam and stable there is so much opportunity to bring out the best in each other. Take full afvantage.

You have every right to be fearful, it really goes with the territory. There are no gaurantees with BPD.

My DD27 was diagnosed three years ago and prior to this there were many problems. At times I thought she turned the corner only to have another major  episode. I think its about ubderstanding BPD and being realistic.

This is a perfect opportunity to reset and communicate and engage him in his journey.  I wish you well and please keep sharing.

Merlot

[wendydarling]

Hi Dagwriter

Welcome to the community  

This is fabulous news, I'm too am delighted for you both, your support over the years is paying off, your son has taken on his responsibility and sought help, is a huge, significant step    

Sounds like the Remeron is working, he's put on weight, is calm. It sounds like he's sleeping better, is that right?

I can understand you're afraid, I find it helps taking it day by day. BPD is often co-morbid, eg depression, anxiety so the treatment plan will likely be adjusted along the way. Does your son have two personalities? The way I view it is my 30DD has episodes where she emotionally dysregulates, mood fluctuations and periods where she is calm, in control, happy.

How are you doing, it sounds like you've been through a lot, do you have support, a family member or a friend you can talk to?

I'm glad you found us!

WDx