3 weeks without her

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My ex left me 3 weeks ago. It started off as the usual silent treatment for a number of days but this time escalated to what looks like a final discard. She has sent me a couple of messages telling me she loved me etc but we have had no contact now for 9 days apart from her mum texting me out of the blue with a bizarre proxy message about a kitchen appliance. Is it likely she may still come back or am I forever split black and discarded. I feel horrendous in myself. I'm so full of blame and regret even though logically I know I am not to blame and I wasn't such a bad person to warrant this treatment. She turned vindictive at the end demanding a gift back that she made for my daughter. I couldn't believe how spiteful she was and I still can't believe she has left me so coldly after all the help I gave her over our relationship. Am I best off just maintaining n/c and moving on. That's if I don't die of a broken heart first.

[Des23]

My ex left me 3 weeks ago. It started off as the usual silent treatment for a number of days but this time escalated to what looks like a final discard. She has sent me a couple of messages telling me she loved me etc but we have had no contact now for 9 days apart from her mum texting me out of the blue with a bizarre proxy message about a kitchen appliance. Is it likely she may still come back or am I forever split black and discarded. I feel horrendous in myself. I'm so full of blame and regret even though logically I know I am not to blame and I wasn't such a bad person to warrant this treatment. She turned vindictive at the end demanding a gift back that she made for my daughter. I couldn't believe how spiteful she was and I still can't believe she has left me so coldly after all the help I gave her over our relationship. Am I best off just maintaining n/c and moving on. That's if I don't die of a broken heart first.

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[Beneck]

Hey man

Same here :p

3 weeks as of today! Absolute no contact!

Difficult but it's getting progressively easier. Some nights are extremely hard but what can you do? Self care above all!

[Pytagoras]

Hi Des23,

How is it going?