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« on: September 11, 2018, 08:37:56 PM »

Thanks.

From Al anon:  The existential paradox by Dr. Joseph Santoro:

"We are not responsible for how we came to be who we are as adults
but as adults we are responsible for whom we have become and for everything we say and do."

My take away:  I am free when I take responsibility for my life regardless of what happened in the past.  I have the power to choose.  I can control my emotions and own my triggers.  I get to determine my life.
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« Reply #1 on: September 12, 2018, 10:23:10 AM »

I am an amazing wife, dedicated mother and step mother. And I am strong enough to help my family get through this difficult time and come out the other side healthier and happier by far.
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« Reply #2 on: September 12, 2018, 11:25:10 AM »

I am an amazing wife, dedicated mother and step mother. And I am strong enough to help my family get through this difficult time and come out the other side healthier and happier by far.

Yes! 

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« Reply #3 on: September 12, 2018, 10:59:39 PM »

I care.
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« Reply #4 on: September 13, 2018, 12:50:43 AM »

I self care!
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« Reply #5 on: September 13, 2018, 06:43:12 AM »

I will make/take time for myself.

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« Reply #6 on: September 14, 2018, 10:17:04 AM »

I am going to ride my bike alone for at least 1 hour and be open to the adventure. This is a gift I will give myself today.

Happy Friday, everyone.
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« Reply #7 on: September 14, 2018, 10:48:29 AM »

Enjoy you ride L2T.
May adventure come your way! 

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« Reply #8 on: September 14, 2018, 10:56:26 AM »

I am free of the shackles of being ignorant about my childhood. Nothing can stop me now ! I need a short nap first and maybe a cup of tea, but then, nothing can stop me !

It's Friday 
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« Reply #9 on: September 14, 2018, 11:51:07 AM »

I had a late night so i just woke up and this put a huge smile on my face Happy C!

Yes!
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« Reply #10 on: September 14, 2018, 01:14:34 PM »

I need a short nap first and maybe a cup of tea, but then, nothing can stop me !

I believe the technical term for this is Beagle Power Nap
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« Reply #11 on: September 14, 2018, 06:36:12 PM »

I am awesome 

Yep.  I've decided I'm no longer criticising myself.  If I say great things often enough, I'll convince myself... .

I think you're all awesome too, for being here, for caring about yourselves and each other.   

Love and light x
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« Reply #12 on: September 14, 2018, 10:56:44 PM »

Harley!  Yes, you are. 

 
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« Reply #13 on: September 15, 2018, 08:12:20 AM »

I can say No without fear
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« Reply #14 on: September 15, 2018, 08:18:18 PM »

Knock me down, and, sure as a hell, I’m getting right back up.
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« Reply #15 on: September 15, 2018, 10:03:02 PM »

Knock me down, and, sure as a hell, I’m getting right back up.

Yes, yes you are, Harri! You are strong and determined.

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« Reply #16 on: September 22, 2018, 09:26:54 AM »

L2T,

"I" think you are the undisputed "I" message queen! Go Girl!   

I love everything you've come up with 

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« Reply #17 on: October 02, 2018, 02:30:35 PM »

I am not responsible for another adult's bad behaviors. I am only responsible for how I respond in difficult situations. I am building my self esteem when I keep my integrity and kindness no matter how badly I am being treated by others.
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« Reply #18 on: October 04, 2018, 02:23:07 PM »

I am working on treating myself with as much compassion and care as I give to my son. I am worthy and deserving of that. I am. I will convince myself if I keep saying it.
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« Reply #19 on: October 04, 2018, 06:00:52 PM »

Harley, you are worthy of compassion, care, love... .all of that.  So add my voice to yours and we can have a duet!

 
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« Reply #20 on: October 10, 2018, 11:13:51 AM »

Harley I’d like to add to Harri comments by saying you are like a highly desirable motorcycle, lavished with chrome from America or a street in London with the highest quality medical help money can buy. If that's not desirable then I don’t know what is. What’s a Quinn by the way ?

I am no longer prepared to spend time with anyone incapable of showing others respect (unless there are huge amounts of money involved).
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« Reply #21 on: October 11, 2018, 12:25:20 PM »

My therapist is moving out of town after giving me 8 years of caring kind therapy. I have looked at myself from nearly every angle possible and uncovered layer after layer of pain which I have bravely processed. I decided 8 years ago that I was so frustrated by how immature I was and by how badly my family treated me that I needed to see a therapist. I think I can give myself a huge pat on the back for growing beyond what I thought possible and making it my life mission to be the best person I can be while supporting others in being the best people they can be.
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« Reply #22 on: October 11, 2018, 12:34:40 PM »

I think I can give myself a huge pat on the back for growing beyond what I thought possible and making it my life mission to be the best person I can be while supporting others in being the best people they can be.



I think so too zachira, you can give yourself a huge pat on the back for this! In fact, you can give yourself multiple huge pats on the back
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« Reply #23 on: October 11, 2018, 02:51:09 PM »



I think so too zachira, you can give yourself a huge pat on the back for this! In fact, you can give yourself multiple huge pats on the back

Give yourself something in a treat that brings you joy too zachira.  Something just for you.  Maybe something you normally wouldn't give to yourself but would really love to have.  You deserve it for working so hard! 

Love and light x
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« Reply #24 on: October 11, 2018, 03:01:45 PM »

Harley I’d like to add to Harri comments by saying you are like a highly desirable motorcycle, lavished with chrome from America or a street in London with the highest quality medical help money can buy. If that's not desirable then I don’t know what is. What’s a Quinn by the way ?

Wow, a duet AND compliments on my chrome and healthcare   Thank you, that's high praise.  

I will get better at graciously accepting kind words in my general direction.

As for what a Quinn is, I've no idea! Although I did find this usable excerpt on Urban Dictionary... .

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It has been said that everything that has ever happened in history has been either the result of a Quinn, or happened to produce a Quinn. Getting a Quinn for a friend is the best thing that could happen to anyone, a Quinn will light up the dark, will make the ordinary extraordinary, make the plain magnificent. In Quinn's hands you will find trust and comfort, happiness, and joy. Everyone trusts Quinn, and in turn Quinn will always be trustworthy. A Quinn is an aesthetically pleasing addition to any room, and brings a unique pleasing aroma into the room, not unlike a basket of roses after a mid-days shower.

We can sidestep the part that explains that a Quinn is a male Adonis type... .

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I am no longer prepared to spend time with anyone incapable of showing others respect (unless there are huge amounts of money involved).

Respect is a core value for me too, so I think we could maybe add a guaranteed short time frame, like 5 minutes, plus the notes to that boundary

Love and light x
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« Reply #25 on: October 11, 2018, 11:53:53 PM »

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We can sidestep the part that explains that a Quinn is a male Adonis type... .
  a male adonis that smells like roses... .no thank you.  Everything else about Quinn sounds pretty darn good HQuinn.



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« Reply #26 on: October 12, 2018, 04:31:09 AM »

In US speak I believe you guys would call him a popular jock? So it seems he can pull it off... .

I will go to the gym today. Writing these statements makes them fact, right?

Love and light x
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« Reply #27 on: October 12, 2018, 05:08:25 AM »

Yes HQuinn, writing something, especially on the internet, makes it true.   


Zachira, I am happy you can see that and that your valued yourself enough to get help.  It has been a pleasure getting to know you better.  thank you for sharing yourself with us.


I statement:  I am strong.
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« Reply #28 on: October 19, 2018, 08:56:25 AM »

I am creative
I am silly
I am hard working
I am caring

I am not the The Male Adonis like Harley Quinn   because you know I will not ever be able to get that image out of my mind now  ... .However, I will own that I am Rubenesque! 

And Harri, yes you are strong!  No doubt about it!

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« Reply #29 on: October 19, 2018, 03:18:14 PM »

Okay so I have been very lax on doing this daily... .or even every other day to be honest.  I was finding it hard to think of new I statements but then realized today that I can repeat some... .certainly the ones that I still need to remind myself of and am still incorporating into my healthier sense of self.  So here goes:

I am valuable.
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