Hi otherlife,
I want to join the others and welcome you to the family. I’m sorry to hear about your marriage I want to echo
once removed how are you feeling about her having a kid? I can relate with that I’m anxious to hear what you have to say.
Who's life, my life, my ex's life with BPD or life with narcissism, the secret life, the wasted life, the confused life, the old life, the new life, the life's learning, the life's journey.
That reminds of a line in the song Losing my Religion by REM
”Oh, life is bigger, It's bigger than you and you are not me”Yes I was in love, but now wonder due to mirroring was I in love with my self( my reflection), was it all false, why didn't I see it, why didn't I understand. I spent years gripped with emotional fear, why did I trust, why was I so blind?
Many members arrive here with a lot of questions, they’re sad, hurt, confused the group is here to help you make sense of your experience we all give you our perspective and you read through it and pick and choice what you feel suits you’re situation and you can pick the bones out of it.
Im going to assume that you mean BPD were not professionals were not trained to diagnose a person with a severe mental illness and personality disorders is niche in psychology. I’d suggest to read as much as you can about the disorder it’s confusion to understand at first with time you’ll understand but don’t beat yourself up.
A lot of us are searching for a situation where we could of saved the marriage but there are so many things that pile up that it’s not one single situation it’s thousands of different ones. You did the best that you could with what you had at the time no more no less.
