Hello oranges and welcome
why is my daughter so nice to her friends but mean when she is around her immediate family
Confusing isn’t it? I witnessed this behaviour too, in fact I would guess that probably all parents here have witnessed it at some point or other. Very hurtful too. I think that they feel safe to do that around immediate family, they know how much we love them. I also think that pwBPD (people with BPD), when they love someone they love very deeply and when they are hurting inside they hurt very deeply too. So if they believe that someone who they love very much has wronged them, they hurt very much and struggle sometimes to get over that hurt, which could lead to them being mean towards their loved one. I’m not sure if it could be a coping mechanism of sorts and I’m basing that thought on what I have witnessed of my son’s behaviour.
FB x
