Introducing myself

[FaithHopeLove]

I have been posting  here for about a  month so  maybe it is time to introduce myself. I am not sure if this is how to do it but here goes.
 
 What type of relationship are you in? I  am the mother of a  24 year old son diagnosed with BPD. He lives near us on his own.

 
Who else (if anyone), in child's family, has BPD? Nobody else in the family  has been diagnosed with BPD but I had some BPD-like problems in my 20s.
 
What is your child's strongest quality? Great question! For once we are looking at the positive. I would say his strongest quality is his capacity for compassion (despite angry outbursts) and his intelligence and creativity.
 
What are the top challenges your child is facing?
His first and only gf of 8 years recently broke up with him. Also he is addicted to cannabis (which he sells)
 
What do you find most difficult in dealing with your child?
His fluctuating moods and black and white thinking
 
How would you categorize your child? Diagnosed? Undiagnosed?
 (BPD, ADHD, PTSD, ASPD? Anxiety? Depressed?
 Substance Abuse? Self-Harming? Other?)thinking

Diagnosed BPD ADHD substance abuse self harming
 
What do you struggle with yourself?
 (Traits of a disorder?  Low Self Esteem? Codependent?
 Enabling? Depression? PTSD? Anxiety? Other?)harming

I  suffer anxiety over my son but I am in therapy and getting better
 
Is anyone in therapy? Child? Parent(s)?
 If so, what type(s)?
 (Individual? Group? Family?
 Dialectical Behavior Therapy? Other?
 AA, Al-Anon? Residential Treatment Center?
 Dual Diagnosis? Intensive Out Patient?)better

My son just quit an outpatient drug program. We are hoping he will join a DBT program that is available to him. My husband and I are both in individual therapy. We also to to Alanon.
 
What are your goals at bpdfamily.com?
To  learn skills that will help me help my son and to also help myself to have a better life.
 

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Only Human]

Hello FaithHopeLove,

Thanks for posting an introduction here, it helps us get to know each other better and know our children better as well.

What are your goals at bpdfamily.com?
To  learn skills that will help me help my son and to also help myself to have a better life.

These things are possible and I'm really glad you're here as part of BPD Family 

~ OH

[Lollypop]

Hi FaithhopeloveKc

Welcome. I’m glad you’ve found us.

You’ve talked about the anxiety you feel and it’s greatvyiur in therapy to help you work through it. I came here when my son28 was 24 and being here has helped us immensely.

Does your son have a job or does he rely on his selling income? How long ago was the breakup?

Hugs

LP

[FaithHopeLove]

Hi LP. Thanks for your encouraging words
 My son does not have a regular job. He makes money (a lot actually) selling weed, high end sneakers, and a few other things.  He has an LLC (limited liability corporation.) In other words he really is an excellent businessman. Marijuana is about to be legalized here so we are hoping he will be able to "go legit."

The break up was very recent. He took it extremely hard to the point where he had to be hospitalized because his cutting was out of control. He seems more accepting of it now. Like most people with BPD relationships are challenging for him. But he knows my husband and I will always love him no matter what. I hope that will help him and serve as a base to build on as he forms other relationships.

[Only Human]

he knows my husband and I will always love him no matter what. I hope that will help him and serve as a base to build on as he forms other relationships.

This is beautiful, FaithHopeLove. Your son is lucky to have his parents in his corner.

~ OH