Well. Its over?

[Spam591]

I haven't seen her in four weeks. She was with another man on NYE and has been lying to me about it.

My wife will call me or text me to check in and see if I am still around. She will let me say two sentences then hang up on me. So I stopped trying to fix things. I cut her off financially so most of the time she reaches out it's to guilt trip me. Like yesterday she called and tried to guilt me for not having money to call an uber and told me she was walking home from work. We've been married for 3 months now. I turned her cards off because she stated that "I was just a dude paying her way through school" then said she meant it, then told me she was going to find another man to pay for her life, then hung up and shut me out for 3 full days.

She called last night and asked to work through it and said she was flying to me tonight. She apologized and told me she loved me. Then i said something very minor that made her mad. She admitted to spending NYE with another man out of anger. Then sent me screenshots of a Tinder conversation with a guy she said she is going on a date with tonight where she is talking mad crap about me with another guy. Telling him "Im going to be sorry I let her go". Like what? Lol... .

This whole entire situation has no logic to it. What happened to working through things with your spouse... .For better or for worse. Why the triangulating? She is acting very very unstable and literally throwing me in the trash. Its like she is acting out of fear.I was offering her a very stable secure loving home and she threw it away. I'm so hurt. So upset.

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shes fighting dirty. it may be dysfunctional (and hurtful) but may also be her way of saying she does want to work it out, and needs you to lead.

Then i said something very minor that made her mad.

whatd you say?

[Spam591]

shes fighting dirty. it may be dysfunctional (and hurtful) but may also be her way of saying she does want to work it out, and needs you to lead.

what you say?

I brought up her spending NYE with another man. She thinks i deserved it and wouldn't talk about it.

[once removed]

do you want to repair the relationship?

[Spam591]

do you want to repair the relationship?

I did. Even with her cheating. I just tried again. She already has a date lined up for tonight. I need to end this. It's so emotionally abusive.

[once removed]

youre not going to be able to repair anything over night.

both of you are kind of operating with an attitude of "well if you dont want me, fine then".

the first step is to stop the bleeding. stop rehashing the past, the relationship issues. neither of you is in a place to solve them right now.

is she on a first date, do you know?