First Threat to Harm Me

[Dancer84]

Hi, this is my first post.  I was just informed that my adult child expressed a desire or threat to attack me. The child no longer lives in our home but is nearby. We are changing the locks and will no longer allow visits to the home.  I will also avoid being alone with our child. Also, the police are aware.

There is a long history of expressing intentions of self harm or suicide and there have been episodes of medication overdoses, but this is the first instance of really threatening harm to another.  I'm sure that others have dealt with physical violence or threats of physical violence. Do you have any initial advice?  I intend to continue the relationship, but this adds a new complication.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Lollypop]

Hi dancer84

I just want to reach out and say I’m sorry to read about your situation. I’m back here after a long spell of reasonable stability. My son is a quiet bpd so I haven’t got any answer for you. Plus I’m not thinking straight at the moment, a bit foggy. It must be hard to overcome your fears and stay calm. I’m going to leave it to others to give advice on physical harm. The steps you’ve taken seem very sensible, I just wanted to reach out.

LP

[Dancer84]

Hi, LP,
I appreciate your post. Sorry to hear that a long spell of stability has ended.  I assume that there has been a crisis with your son.  With my child, this is the second crisis in many months of stability in terms of living alone and working. I am happy for the periods of stability. I consider it progress when there are longer periods between crises and when the crises are less severe.
Dancer84