My Adult Child BPD and the constant roller coaster ride

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My 22 yr old BPD daughter lives at home with my husband and myself.  She is a college student that is commuting.  This morning’s blowup was so upsetting.  It happens most mornings, different topics.  My own anxiety is not controlled.  I don’t want to be on this rollercoaster anymore but I have no choice because she lives here and doesn’t have the means to live on her own right now.  I just want to be happy and stop walking on eggshells all the time

[LolaBella]

 

My 22 yr old BPD daughter lives at home with my husband and myself.  She is a college student that is commuting.  This morning’s blowup was so upsetting.  It happens most mornings, different topics.  My own anxiety is not controlled.  I don’t want to be on this rollercoaster anymore but I have no choice because she lives here and doesn’t have the means to live on her own right now.  I just want to be happy and stop walking on eggshells all the time

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Lollypop]

Hi Lolbella

Hi there. A blowout every morning must be so tedious and draining. My son bounced back to us a number of times in his late teens and early twenties. He’s a quiet bpd so a different experience for us. But I certainly understand rollercoaster and eggshells. I found that I felt a lot better about our situation and my feeling it was endless...was to take control over myself. I could watch the rollercoaster and didn’t have to be on it. Im not saying it was easy but I managed to emotionally detach myself from the dramas - I could see they were his, not mine.

Practically speaking, is she stressed because she’s ill prepared for her commute and day?  My son is an early riser and has a strict order in which he does things. He struggles when  unexpected things happen. He left by 7 usually so I could leave him to it before starting my day.

I’m wondering what your general morning scene looks like? Can you pinpoint when things start to go wrong? I get that not all of us are a morning person. It sounds stressful for her and of course you too.

LP