I'm still trying to deal with my mothers BPD.

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Hello its been years since I posted anything. I am wrapped up in her drama again and I'm trying to find a way to deal with it. I'm not letting the pain go, I'm letting it get under my skin again. I wish I could it turn it off and not let it bother me. I feel so much anger and anxiety lately. I am 55 years old, married, 2 adult children and grandchildren 17 years to 11 months. My husband is wonderful, I have a great life, great friends and my mother and siblings are very hurtful. I have two sisters who are very close with my mom, so they play sides. My father has given up and just does whatever she wants him to do. I use to have a great relationship with him. 

[shipper]

Hello its been years since I posted anything. I am wrapped up in her drama again and I'm trying to find a way to deal with it. I'm not letting the pain go, I'm letting it get under my skin again. I wish I could it turn it off and not let it bother me. I feel so much anger and anxiety lately. I am 55 years old, married, 2 adult children and grandchildren 17 years to 11 months. My husband is wonderful, I have a great life, great friends and my mother and siblings are very hurtful. I have two sisters who are very close with my mom, so they play sides. My father has given up and just does whatever she wants him to do. I use to have a great relationship with him. 

[zachira]

My heart goes out to you having grown up in a family that causes you so much emotional pain, while at the same time I have enormous respect for you in making a happy marriage and having good friends, despite the examples your family of origin set for you. Know that you are not alone in feeling anxiety and pain over the continual bad treatment you receive from the family that is supposed to love and care for you. We are here to support you in any way we can, as many of us have similar challenges with the family we grew up in. Do take advantages of the tools on this site and keep us posted on how you are doing.

[HappyChappy]

Hi Shipper,

If this is still triggering you it suggests there may be unresolved issues. When I fell ill with CPTSD, things could not have been better in my life. I understand our bodies wait until its safe (i.e. the war is over) before we address past trauma.

What things in particular are triggering you or winding you up ?

[Harri]

Hi shipper.  It has been a few days since you posted.  How are you doing?

What sort of things do you want to work on?  Differentiation so your mom does not have such an emotional impact on you?  Boundaries for your emotional and physical safety?  Communication strategies that can make like easier for you and may even give you the chance of being heard?

How can we help you during this tough time?