I have been with my partner for >10 yrs (married with son)...want to stay together but i feel his mental health is getting worse OR my ability to remain sane is getting worse. His diagnosis was schizophrenia/schizoaffective/bipolar over the last 20 yrs but I never agreed with any of them. My counselor kept telling me it sounds like BPD. Tears are frequent and I feel his anger is escalating (not physically violent toward people but inanimate objects). I know he is suffering but how do I draw the line when things get Out of control. Don't want our son to constantly be witnessing this...
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Just wondering if your husband is currently getting meds for his symptoms, and perhaps some counseling? Whatever the diagnosis, meds are generally prescribed to deal with the symptoms. Are the tears and anger happening at the same time, or on different days?
If he has been on meds, could he have stopped taking them completely or perhaps a lower dose? Perhaps he needs different meds?
Has your husband ever been receptive to learning about distress tolerance and healthy ways to self sooth?
I can understand that you are concerned about how your husband's behavior might negatively impact your son. Is that something you can discuss with your husband?
Perhaps you husband can get a punching bag and install it in the garage. It could be a more healthy way to channel his anger and get a workout at the same time. Physical activity can help take some steam away from anger.