hi Sunandrain,
one thing ive learned is that "projection" is not necessarily the same thing as "hypocrisy". when two people are in conflict, and one or both are at the other's throat, its not uncommon for both parties to feel the same way about the other. projecting can certainly happen in that case, where one (or both) party is doing a bit of mind reading and accusing the other of a certain intention, based on their own feelings.
it does sound like your partner is doing a fair amount of that, baiting you, and really not expressing his frustrations in the best manner.
he replied ‘ when I go out with you you just have a go at me so I dont want to go anywhere with you’ ...I couldnt beleive what I had just heard!
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’Im talking to this person ( pointing at the face mask) ..they are angry. Like you...and nodded toward me.’
how did you respond to these?