It’s hard to say without more info - when you say she’s wants you to tell her to go away, do you mean bc she believes you’ve been in contact even though you haven’t or is your ex trying to communicate with you (perhaps to figure out why she’s being stalked)?
I wish it was that easy I hadn’t talked to her for over a year or more. My pwBPD got it in her head that there was more to the story and still happening. She stalked her and contacted her and her other friend to try and get even more info from her. She then she demanded I tell her that I wouldn’t talk to her anymore and prove I said it. I did it. At the time we were in couples and working on healing the wound I “created”
So now every 6 weeks or so I go though “I think (insert accusation) because I saw (insert conclusions garnered by staking on social media) and you don’t have my back and I don’t love you and I’m leaving.”
My response has always been to beg and plead and deny and so on.
But nothing is happening. So I’m tired and it’s getting me nowhere.
So you're saying that my response should be...
I love you. I will always have your back. I’m sorry you feel that way.. I can understand why,but nothing is happening.
Does that sound right?