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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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PhazeLh

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« on: May 13, 2019, 05:14:12 AM »

Felt as though I was slowly starting to forget about her..Last night as I lay in bed swiping through a dating app of course who do I see? all the memories/feelings come flooding back and I break down into tears. I feel so broken, I just can't move on. I had a feeling she had already met someone else which I was able to accept but for some reason knowing she is out there looking for someone new hurts so much.
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« Reply #1 on: May 13, 2019, 05:43:24 AM »

It's horrible but these feelings will come and go. I'm going through the same thing myself. Hopefully the better periods will get longer and the bad times will become less common in time.
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« Reply #2 on: May 13, 2019, 08:15:41 PM »

Hey there, PhazeLh. It’s hard not to look, but I suggest not looking. Don’t torture yourself. It’s hard to see how quickly they can move on. Learn more. Educate yourself. It’ll all come together. Can you commit to not looking at her social media? It will help you in leaps and bounds if you don’t.

You mentioned swiping through a dating app. Are you sure that you’re ready to date? Maybe a cooling off period is needed. Some time to reflect?
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« Reply #3 on: May 15, 2019, 09:23:07 PM »

Hi Phazelh,

Welcome

Do you have an update for us? How are you feeling?
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« Reply #4 on: May 15, 2019, 09:49:06 PM »

Hey there, PhazeLh. It’s hard not to look, but I suggest not looking. Don’t torture yourself. It’s hard to see how quickly they can move on. Learn more. Educate yourself. It’ll all come together. Can you commit to not looking at her social media? It will help you in leaps and bounds if you don’t.

You mentioned swiping through a dating app. Are you sure that you’re ready to date? Maybe a cooling off period is needed. Some time to reflect?

JNChell is right, staying away from any kind of social media is very helpful. Also a good point raised about staying away from dating for a while, what do you think?
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