Anxiety and Frustration

[Borderlined]

I've tried so hard to direct my wife who I love very much to a professional with experience in BPD. She goes to a therapist who is a bad joke.
I see patterns of her behavior.  Today she spent time with her family because of a graduation.  I could have predicted the future,that every person would hurt her and I would hear about it all when I got in from work.  And I was 100% correct. I had to listen to it all after a 14 hour day. Again. She is not living a happy life and neither am I. I need Xanax after time with her. I can listen and validate until I turn blue. Which helps but I sure would love to come come on a Friday to a happy girl.  I don't like coming home.
If i mention BPD she hits the roof! People with BPD are serial killers. She knows. She Googled it. I dont know what to do but go on another day  Its sad. And I'm sad. I can only pray she is lead to the help she needs. I'll go too.  BPD sucks everyone in

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