Constant splitting

[Sarah99]

My partner pretty regularly will suddenly feel that we have a bad relationship (that I'm fake, that I'm a liar, that I'm crazy, that I'm boring, that we never have good conversations or good sex).

I know that there things aren't true. They could be said even just an hour after we've had great sex or a wonderful conversation. But they hurt, and I'm kicked out of our house about once every week or two. I'm cursed at and broken up with every few days, even though she seems to want to be in a relationship when the splitting isn't happening.

I don't know what to do. How do I respond to criticism when she believes it so deeply at the time? How can I escape the emotionally abusive part when she says she needs me to sit there and listen to her criticism (when I wish I could just leave until she calms down)? How do I stop getting broken up with? I'm so tired.

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[Yoke]

Hi @sarah99. I am sorry to hear that u also have been treated wrong. I am new here since a couple of months here. I have been into a relationship for 8 months, we were engaged, much breakups- makeups, critizised by her, faulse accused and so on. We had amazing relationship when she was feeling fine, great conversations, sex, and all that. But then , the bad times she did like your girlfriend did, and now mine just sent a textmessage with accusation, anger and so.. and devaluated me in May... has never come back. I have been griefing and still do, wonder so many things.. WHY, WHAT...but i will never get the answers to my questions. Because they will never be pleased or loved enough.. and their behaviour will not change unless they dont get treatement . You more u love them, the more they push u away.. the are so afraid of being  abandonded  and geel engulfment at the same time..they are confused souls with so much pain you cant get it..or understand it...how long have u been together? How are the good times u have? How often has she splitted you?