Moral obligation if they are very ill?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

It has been more than 2 years since.I have seen my ex.
I did talk to him briefly in the phone o
a year ago.

He is in his late.60s, and a mutual friend reports that my ex is very ill. Ex has returned to town where I live and is staying at a motel. He has been here a month or.so.  He alienated our mutual friend.

The friend told me that my ex looks very mentally ill, rifles through recycling bins, is gaunt and disheveled. He may be slightly delusional , out of touch with reality. This seems a sad but expected progression of his illness. This may be more than BPD.

I feel.some moral.obligation to Get him help if possible. Without seeing him. I am tempted because saving and caring for people is my thing. But I wont.

Is there something to.do.here  ? Contact a city social.worker or have police do a wellness check?
My friend , who is a solid guy, says my ex needs hospital care and medication. I agree. Ex is Canadian citizen and has no healthcare in US. Friend says he thinks my ex needs to Get to Canada and in hospital. I'm Canada he has a brother and a friend he stays with.

It is scary to think of him this ill.
And scary to think.I was so blind and so very close to this manipulative man for years.

So we have some responsibility to our fellow human beings who are in serious trouble? How guilty will.I feel.if he does in a motel here without an attempt to Get him care?

I know I  can't save anyone. But if the situation were reversed, i'd want some  positive action taken on my behalf.

Feeling sad.

[anna58]

It has been more than 2 years since.I have seen my ex.
I did talk to him briefly in the phone o
a year ago.

He is in his late.60s, and a mutual friend reports that my ex is very ill. Ex has returned to town where I live and is staying at a motel. He has been here a month or.so.  He alienated our mutual friend.

The friend told me that my ex looks very mentally ill, rifles through recycling bins, is gaunt and disheveled. He may be slightly delusional , out of touch with reality. This seems a sad but expected progression of his illness. This may be more than BPD.

I feel.some moral.obligation to Get him help if possible. Without seeing him. I am tempted because saving and caring for people is my thing. But I wont.

Is there something to.do.here  ? Contact a city social.worker or have police do a wellness check?
My friend , who is a solid guy, says my ex needs hospital care and medication. I agree. Ex is Canadian citizen and has no healthcare in US. Friend says he thinks my ex needs to Get to Canada and in hospital. I'm Canada he has a brother and a friend he stays with.

It is scary to think of him this ill.
And scary to think.I was so blind and so very close to this manipulative man for years.

So we have some responsibility to our fellow human beings who are in serious trouble? How guilty will.I feel.if he does in a motel here without an attempt to Get him care?

I know I  can't save anyone. But if the situation were reversed, i'd want some  positive action taken on my behalf.

Feeling sad.

[iluminati]

I get the impulse, but you just might have to watch him die.  It may sound cruel, but it's the only way to be kind to your peace of mind.  Since he's a Canadian citizen, I'd try to send him some information on travel health insurance of Canadians if you have the means to contact him.  Past that, I'd move on. 

[Harri]

I know I can't save anyone. But if the situation were reversed, i'd want some  positive action taken on my behalf.

Then take some positive action for a fellow human being by calling the police and asking them to do a wellness check.  There is no risk to you in doing so.  You can also call his brother and let him know where he is.  Just pass on the info.