Living with a partner with BPD

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Living with a partner with BPD is the hardest thing in the world. I can accept it, understand it, change my speach, not get angry ,be compassionate to the feelings it brings, i can go to meetings, talk to like minded people,but it all just lessens the blows. Noting brings peace of mind. It's exhausting it's unfair and feels like a prison. Not her fault.  But it's not mine either.  I needed to vent. No one knows outside these boards how much life can suck

[Borderlined]

Living with a partner with BPD is the hardest thing in the world. I can accept it, understand it, change my speach, not get angry ,be compassionate to the feelings it brings, i can go to meetings, talk to like minded people,but it all just lessens the blows. Noting brings peace of mind. It's exhausting it's unfair and feels like a prison. Not her fault.  But it's not mine either.  I needed to vent. No one knows outside these boards how much life can suck

[Cat Familiar]

What would your life look like if you weren’t limited by your partner’s dysfunction?

[AskingWhy]

Borderlined, you can share what your life with your pwBPD is like.   

[Enabler]

We all believe in Unicorns here. What are you day to day struggles?

It's human nature to check ourselves in the metaphorical mirrors people hold up to us. On the whole most mirrors are warped in some way shape or form but not totally warped like one of those hall of mirror mirrors you get at the fair. Our pwBPD often hold up an extremely distorted mirror telling us this is how we are. Try as we might, it's tough not to take on board some of that reflection as real, and genuine. We can so easily get a crippling view of ourselves, after all, surely the person we love intimately should be able to give the most honest and real feedback about ourselves? 

Stay a while, learn, share with others and know that you are not alone.

Enabler