help me help her

[itsme123]

hi all this is the first time i have ever posted on a group or board about anything so please bare with me i need help to help my partner i am trying to understand the condition and i think i am understanding like i get that its not her personally atacking its the bpd but i dont know how to help her she spends time in bed and so so angry her anger is manafested towards my mother who i have had to cut out of my life because my partners hatred has gone to the point where she asked me to choose her or my mom i dont know how to help her

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[Harri]

Hi and welcome!

I am sorry for what brings you here but I am glad you found us. 

Is your wife seeing a doctor or therapist?  Is she diagnosed with BPD or depression?

We have members here who are or were estranged from their own families due 'problems'.  Can you tell us more about what happened between your wife and your mom?  Do you have support for yourself, other than here that is?

Sorry for all the questions.  I am trying to get a better understanding of what is going on so we can help you better.

Again,