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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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Xeonrebel
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« on: October 12, 2019, 06:03:25 PM »

Does anybody have an experience of being recycled (or tried to recycle) while being on a new relationship with a non? either GF or BF.

if so, whats your experience?

did they (exbpd) try to break up your new relationship? did the exbpd rage? or just vanished again?
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« Reply #1 on: October 13, 2019, 09:17:42 PM »

Hi Xeonrebel  Welcome new member (click to insert in post)

I don't have experience with this, but I wondered if you are currently in this stage and trying to understand it? What are the things you are noticing right now?

It is not uncommon that a pwBPD traits will feel rejected and try to lash out in order to 'self sooth' or make themselves feel better. Any of us who have had a BPD in our lives can certainly relate to that!

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« Reply #2 on: October 30, 2019, 08:20:37 AM »

I am married but it did not stop my friend (who I suspect is BPD/NPD) to try to elicit an affair and was really inappropriate at times with how he spoke and pictures he sent.  I am sure if I had been single and 100% available he would had run a mile.  We had a relationship 30 years ago and I was never enough for him and kept catching him with other girls.  Yet when I played him at his own game back then I was subjected to a torrent of abuse.

So the more unavailable you are the greater the chase and thrill for them.
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« Reply #3 on: October 30, 2019, 12:47:44 PM »

I agree with the posts so far. With my ex most of the attempts by her to engage in conversations of reconnecting either came when I was dating another woman. Even though I hadn't dated anyone longer than 3-4 weeks until I met my current girlfriend. After a couple of months dating my current girlfriend about a year ago, my ex made it known that she wanted to reconnect emotionally/romantically. She would also do this at times it was clear to her that I had disengaged and when things were going badly with her boyfriend. I don't think she would have gone through with reconciling. I think it was her way of keeping me tethered just enough just in case she wanted/needed me for her needs.
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