I Kicked My BPD Wife Out OF The House 6 Months Ago

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I kicked my wife out of the house after 21 years 6 months ago. One boy still living with me going to College. My older boy is now not afraid to come home to visit. My younger boy is as happy as can be. I went to years of psychology to get to this point.

That woman was the devil and a legion of Devils all wrapped up in one. Her half sisters and one of their husbands encouraged her (sick people). Her two real sisters know who she is and support me.

My wife is highly manipulative, very violent, evil, steals, lies, breaks very expensive things including vehicles over and over, and the latest she claims she cheated 4 times, but that could be a lie.

She has tried to completely destroy the lives of our children in ever way their whole lives.

Lovely life my children and I had wasn't it?

[Problem]

I kicked my wife out of the house after 21 years 6 months ago. One boy still living with me going to College. My older boy is now not afraid to come home to visit. My younger boy is as happy as can be. I went to years of psychology to get to this point.

That woman was the devil and a legion of Devils all wrapped up in one. Her half sisters and one of their husbands encouraged her (sick people). Her two real sisters know who she is and support me.

My wife is highly manipulative, very violent, evil, steals, lies, breaks very expensive things including vehicles over and over, and the latest she claims she cheated 4 times, but that could be a lie.

She has tried to completely destroy the lives of our children in ever way their whole lives.

Lovely life my children and I had wasn't it?

[SinisterComplex]

I say good job for saying YES to YOU. You had to make the decision to tell her to go kick rocks to make your life better for you. Some people suck. Disordered or not. Regardless, I am giving you a standing ovation for doing what you needed to do. Once I finally was divorced and slammed the door shut on my ex wife I was a happy man and it felt like a black cloud had been lifted off of me. The disorder is a monster. It sucks because it doesn't ruin some people who can beautiful and it ruins relationships. Regardless...keep doing you and be the best parent you can.

Cheers to you moving on and living your best life!

-SC-

[Mutt]

Hi Problem,



I’d like to join SinisterComplex and welcome you to the family. I’m sorry for the circumstances that led you to this site it certainly sounds like you and your family have gone through a lot. I am glad that you have found us 

You will find many members here that can relate to you and offer you help. You are not alone.

The lessons are on the top of the board. I look forward to reading your posts on the board. Hang in there.

[Problem]

Thanks for the support.

My side of the family supports me too as do the two real sisters..

I have extreme guilt over what I did, but the Psychologists taught me to think of the Hell I put my kids through.

None of the Psychologists know I completed this mission after all the years I was with them. Bless their heart because they know disordered people well. The last Psychologist dropped my insurance so we parted. I had already parted a couple of months from her because I was worried it could hurt me at work taking so much time off for 2 years.

The only thing that has happened so far is that she is gone. There is much left to this story as to how it will end. All three of my Psychologists told me I needed to kick her out of the house. That provides me some solace knowing the wisdom of man is involved.

[I Am Redeemed]

Hi. It sounds like you have certainly been through a rough time. I am glad that you are here.

Have you filed for divorce? Do you have a protective order against your wife due to the violence?

Does she still try to contact you or the kids?

the aftermath of a relationship with a violent and disordered person can be a roller coaster in itself. How are you holding up after the breakup?

[SinisterComplex]

Problem, stay the course. It may suck, but once you really get away from it the FOG will lift. You will recover. You will put all the pieces of the puzzle together and that will provide you with the solace you seek. It just takes time...no one likes to hear that, but it is the truth. So one thing I can see is that you were looking for anyone to provide with a different opinion or to see things from a different perspective, but when the majority is in favor of something...that isn't something you should brush off. There is a reason for it. Believe me...I have went through all of the same feelings. My friends and family were right and once I had my own time to reflect and gather my thoughts I realized I was the moron for going against the grain.

Our ego's and pride get the best of us sometimes because you want to prove people wrong and love conquers all and all of that BS fairy tale nonsense. I am here to tell you do not buy into fantasy...live in reality. If you think someone is selling you Wolf Tickets...they are.

The most important lesson I have ever learned in life regardless of my education and what I am trained to do...whenever I go against my instincts and my intuition I always get hurt and I lose.

The only reason why you may feel bad is the weight put on you from the torment, pain, and suffering you were subjected to. Be a survivor, choose YOU, and live well my friend.

Cheers!

-SC-

[Problem]

In answer to the question from one of the respondents

I am not divorced and don't plan to. Worst case would be a separation. Personally I want to find out if she cheated. Major issue.

I also want to protect my kids. I don't believe in second marriages and know you have seen individuals with this belief system.

I still hold out that a miracle will happen with her and the step family side. Nobody ever heard my kids screaming for help. They are listening now. Can their hard heads hear is my current situation.

She has not tried to contact us in person. She texted my son a couple times and left a gift in his car twice This was probably after I informed my sister after she asked me last month about my wife's interest in the kids. I then informed my sister that my wife has made no contact with any of us In 5 months; which by the way is ok with us. My sister may have told my wife and this is why my wife gave my son two gifts. My wife has talked to my sister over Facebook multiple times. No change in my wife's behaviour is being reported back to me from my sister. My wife is still slandering me and my kids with the worst possible lies and wild exaggerations a person could think up.