Up until this point I’ve been doing good with NC after a slip up at Christmas, but my heart sank today, and all these feelings of jealousy and hate came back. All day my mind has been focused on the good times we had, and just can’t get out of this mind set.
Thoughts like…has she changed…is he better than me…why is she still trying to contact me despite me being NC and being with this new guy
as painful as these things can be, and they are painful, they can also serve as a good gauge for where we are in our detachment process.
this tells you some work remains to be done. having no contact can give you the space to detach, but it wont do the work of letting go, healing, and moving on.
id be willing to bet that in a day, or a few days, you find yourself bouncing back faster than you would some months, or even a month ago.
use that opportunity.