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Jboy305
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Friends she wants to be friends but says she wants to get back together
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Should I tell her how I feel the next time I see her
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My ex she's has bpd what happened I accused her of wanting to be with her ex instead of me I know she loves me and was being truthfull and I got inscure so I made her jealous by getting another girl to write on my Facebook timeline and I told her why I did it she stopped talking to me so I got her Fowler's and left them outside her house she got them and knows it was me. Then she broke up said she wanted to start again we still spoke she invited me to her house we went to the bedroom to watch a movie she got changed in front of me. We were laying on her bed I told her I wanted her back she said she wanted to be friends to see for the now but also said she wasn't saying no it's a maby I didn't tell her I still loved her. I am giving her space. At first I didn't understand bpd... ... .. ... My plan is to wait a month if she doesn't contact me I will contact her I was good to her always there for her when she tried to kill herself and ended up in hospital and she told me she was mentally abused her hit her and raped her when she was growing up and I still Love her I know what I need to do if we get back together don't make her feel guilty listen to her even when she is shouting at me and give her space as much as she needs
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I have an apology text when should I send it
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I made her feel guilty and I tried to make her jealous it was stupid I got scared incase she found someone better it's says ... ... ... ...when.we were together...I'm sorry for not trusting you and I should have been more thoughtfull of your feelings and I should have treated you better sorry for not giving you anuff space I didn't know how much you needed it at the time...I was at her house last week she changed in front of me and then we were laying bin her bed watching a flim I told her I wanted her back. She said she wanted to see how we got on as friends first. Then I told her I was sorry. But she didn't say anything back. I know why she wanted to know why I was sorry I haven't contacted her for 3 days when should I send that mail
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Hi Jboy.
I merged your two recent threads so we can keep everything together.
You still in contact with her but just as friends, correct?
As for sending your apology note, I would say hold off for now. You apologized and sent flowers already so let her be for now. Let's try to talk this through before you send another apology. If she asked for space and you said you will give it to her it is best to do just that. In the meantime you can work on yourself and getting to a place where you have a better handle on your own anxiety.
Are you okay with being friends for now? How long were you together before the break up?
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