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Author Topic: Please help me My ex-bpd don't let me go for months  (Read 428 times)
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« on: February 29, 2020, 08:36:56 AM »

Hi,
I need help and advice!
I was in 2 years relationship with my BPD+Bi polar girl. In the beginning i did not know anything about bpd but i saw that is something strange. She said to me that she have  schizophrenia  and i read about that but also i saw that she dont have trait of schizophrenia cause my friend have a schizophrenia. In the beginning i was like everybody in love bombing phase i and i think like everybody i find perfect soulmate. We have beautifull love moments together but i saw that is to good to be truth.I also saw that she is patological liar but she was not aggressive. We never have a some big fight about something and she is never angry. She also dont like drink and drugs. She text me every day *you are my soulmate* *you are love of my life* *i can not live without you*. Then she told me that she have bpd. Then i read everything i have about bpd.. I told her I knew what was waiting for me when i was clearly inform about bpd. She told me that she is little strange about that cause she have a ideal *one love for whole life* and we continue the relationship. After i unmasked her we have some fight and she selfharm in front of me..In every fight she selfharm yourself.One day i told to her i can not handle that and she tried to commit suicide. So i continue the relationship and clearly i did not know what to do. I tried to help her but she never change..she continue  with liars and everything  and i caught her in cheating. I broke with her and go no contact. I did not block her via e mail. She move to the next relationship but every day last two months she sending me text message that she can not live without me,and text like *you or death* *one love for whole life* *contact me or i will kill myself* . Everyday and then call me from another phone and told me she will kill yourself if i will not be with her and she told me i already told to you *you or death* and take it seriosly. (she already try to commit suicide cause i try to broke) I call her yesterday i she told me i will never,never leave you alone,till end of my life.
Can i take it seriously,i dont know what to do..
Is she ever stop?
Please help me!

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sorry for my english Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #1 on: February 29, 2020, 09:57:10 AM »

This must feel overwhelming, to have her threaten suicide and refuse to let you go.

Though you are no longer in a relationship, she is still constantly contacting you. For that reason, I’m going to move your post to the Bettering board.

I’m not suggesting that you resume a relationship, but there you can learn ways to deal with her when she contacts you.

It sounds like you’re concerned for her safety and that these calls and texts are very distressing to you.
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