BDP GF dumped me after 2 years I want to understand her, still theres a chance?

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Apparently she hates me so much without a reason and she painted me so black that shes even marking people saying that
shes very disappointed that her favorite character is from the "aryan sign from horoscope"

how does a person that has 24 years can be childish like this, jesus.

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she said that I speak in a way as if she owes me something and had to accept everything. <- This is not true by any means. IDK, even tho everything else she saying is true about any relationship. Its a passive/agressive that put her totally in control of the situation, i will try me best to cut off the contact. but she keeps reaching me

it sounds like she may have reached out because she felt badly, both for you, and how she handled the previous conversations.

when she says you speak in a way as if she owes you something, she may be talking about feelings of obligation.

when you declare yourself to her, or plead for closure, or to talk, thats what she means.

an ex lover cant help us heal from a breakup. she, in particular, is in a new relationship.

friends, family, and a support system can help us heal.

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it sounds like she may have reached out because she felt badly, both for you, and how she handled the previous conversations.

when she says you speak in a way as if she owes you something, she may be talking about feelings of obligation.

when you declare yourself to her, or plead for closure, or to talk, thats what she means.

an ex lover cant help us heal from a breakup. she, in particular, is in a new relationship.

friends, family, and a support system can help us heal.

Because her victim felt into her love bombing too early and in the middle of covid19 quarentine i think shes kinda of friendzoning him now, the way theyre tagging eachother is not the same a 1 week ago, and way less frequent. IDK. I just wanted to be recognize as someone who had true love for her, but i think she literally is anger at me without any rational reason, just to protect herself from the shame and guilty i guess?

[stressftw]

it sounds like she may have reached out because she felt badly, both for you, and how she handled the previous conversations.

when she says you speak in a way as if she owes you something, she may be talking about feelings of obligation.

when you declare yourself to her, or plead for closure, or to talk, thats what she means.

an ex lover cant help us heal from a breakup. she, in particular, is in a new relationship.

friends, family, and a support system can help us heal.

Ok i need to write this here cause i never saw someone doing that before.

Right before she dumped me, she said that a guy "X" that she was tagging in facebook was only her friend, and that she was liking another guy. And she said the name of this Guy "Y". I have her facebook password and she doesnt know, so she was really researching infos about this guy in middle to end 2019. The thing is, she is literally sharing romantic things with this guy "X" that would be her friend, but they are literally sharing couple things. and NOW she is LITERALLY taggin BOTH of them in their facebook posts. The guy that she said she was liking, and the other she said that is friend but sharing couple things.

She is literally making this guy that she likes orbiting around her already while the other is secure thats BIZARRE PLEASE READ, in front of him.

because this guy "X" probably dont know that she likes guy "Y" because she only told me and he probably think they are only friends while she is securing another victim. How can they be so manipulative to this point?  Wtf is that?

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Does in this forum have any case of someone like this? After 2 days of dumping me she was already lining up a guy and now shes lining up a guy over the lined up guy after 3 weeks IN FRONT OF HIM.

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my ex was lining up a new guy before we broke up. its not entirely clear to me for how long. it could have been some months. it could have been some weeks or days. i think that we were struggling for a long time, and in terms of prospective partners, he was at the top of her list...there may have been others, i dont know.

How can they be so manipulative to this point?  Wtf is that?

the honest answer is it doesnt necessarily have anything to do with BPD specifically. an insecure person, a person with codependent tendencies, a person who has difficulty breaking up with others, any of those kinds of people may tend to find a smooth landing out of a relationship. in a lot of cases, its a coping mechanism. sometimes, its just dating around.

your ex may be playing the field, so to speak. seeing whos out there.

we are happy to try to provide perspective when it comes to your questions, but, honestly, is it helping you to get into her account and watch all of this play out right now?

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