BPD EX GIRLFRIEND

[xpskyle]

Hello. I am looking for someone that has experience with BPD to give me some insight on this relationship I just got out of for the last 6 months. Let me start from day one. I met her on tinder. She is still married with 3 kids but separated for 3 months and stayed that way up until when we broke up recently. So a total of 9 months she was separated and now back with her husband of 8 years. When i met this girl, she made me feel on top of the world right off the bat. I mean she was charming, beautiful, sexy & the sex was just mind blowing. She made me believe she truly wanted me to be in her life forever. She made me believe she was going to get a divorce, it never happened & i constantly stressed over it. I gave this women so much money, and i didn’t mind until everything eventually came out. She didn’t work. Lived off money her husband gave her, father paid for her town house & her husband paid for everything else. She slept with her husbands brother, she told me she is a cheater and a liar, has BPD. This all came out at the end. I literally was mind blown. She has totally blocked me on everything and i am so heart broken. I keep blaming myself and she even blames me for how i acted. I was constantly stressed out. The constant back and forth. One day she would feel one way about me, the next she didn’t want me. I honestly felt like i was just supply for her until her husband was ready to get back with her. But if that were true, she put on such a good act. She kept coming back to me but i had to e-mail her towards the end. Literally chase her. I do feel like it is done now though. She said I will never hear from her again. I just feel so lost, wondering what i could have done different or would of it even mattered?

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[Boll Weevil]

I'm sorry you had to experience that. I think you answered all of your own questions. It seems she should have some sort of warning label.  You may be lucky to have gotten out that easily.