Getting ignored after voicing frustration about something

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The girl I'm currently involved with is ignoring me again. We technically aren't dating, but might as well be. Anytime it seems like we are heading in a good direction and getting ready to start something, she disappears. Last weekend she went to a wedding with me, and everything was perfect. Got along great, she didn't feel distant, etc. On the way home (3 day trip) she joked about not talking to people for the next week because of all the social interaction giving her anxiety. Over the next few days, she would only send one word responses usually letting me know she's ok. This is pretty normal. I'm not a fan of it, but i've learned to deal with it. 2 days ago she just stopped responding completely (no arguments or anything to cause it) until she sent a message that she's taking her friend to rehab. I understand her helping him, but for some reason I made a comment when she called that has made her not talk to me since. I think I was just frustrated that I had sat around for close to a week worried about her and wishing I could help in some way, only to finally hear from her that she's off hours away with someone. I made a smart ass comment along the lines of "how are you able to help this person and be there emotionally for them, when you won't even speak to me? That didn't go well, and she got off the phone right after. Hasn't talked to me since. I'm not really sure what to do in general, but this is becoming a regular thing as she's already disappeared 4 or 5 times this year. She's worth it, but it's just getting so stressful and I'm feeling worn down. The only person I even feel comfortable talking to about this is her, so when she disappears I just keep everything bottled up. What makes things even more depressing is the fact that these disappearances always come at a point where things seem to be going really well for us. That feeling of hope and joy constantly being ripped away is killing me right now. I guess I'm just coming here to have a place to vent.

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