Son A and/or wife have not been diagnosed but in my opinion fit profile of borderline personality disorder. I am not certain if my son is driven by his wives beliefs and/or if both have characteristics as I only hear from my son. I respect and accept they may have a different opinion on what "sexual abuse" is but their inability to accept others views is painful as they isolate themselves from the family.
I have compassion for both and pray for their healing every day but I have reached a point in that I am no longer going to tolerate the verbal abuse. It is extremely hard not seeing my grandchildren (age 4 and almost 6) and worrying about them. While I believe they are cautious in what they say to the kids, they are smart and I am sure sense the tension and are confused why they are not allowed to be with family