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Chubba
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: Broken Up but still attached
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« on: August 03, 2020, 08:06:11 AM »

I’m struggling with my partner. Sometimes when he is expressing himself, I don’t know what to say. I second guess everything to the point where I end up not saying anything at all for fear that I may end up making a situation worse. It is causing a huge strain in our relationship. Now he thinks I don’t care and don’t love him. It feels like I never have the right words. I want to be there for him so he knows he isn’t alone. How do I respond to intense situations without causing a Major mood swing?
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« Reply #1 on: August 03, 2020, 08:28:23 AM »

Have you read the lessons on this site?  Have you read up on JADE and SET?  Have you done the research into validating when he is emotional or talking about a situation that requires it?  Validating is huge and cannot express this enough.  Use 'I' not 'You'.  For example he is telling you he is having a bad day, a good response would be: 'I understand you are not having a great day, I'm sorry you are feeling this way, is there anything I can do to help?'

You don't have to validate every time he talks to you but when you feel a situation needs that attention.  Think of it as a thermometer and when you feel he's at that certain point then you use validation. 
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