Hello
pearcel and welcome
I've been were you are managing, gripped by fear that my adult DD (dear daughter) may kill herself, you are not alone.
My DD is also a inward, 'quiet' person' with BPD. I've done grim
I wrote this here back in January 18. I was reflecting how I felt in early 2016 and how I released myself, through radical acceptance.
"I like to think I've conquered my fear, I feel as though I have. What helped me was acknowledging to myself I'm doing my very best and if my DD completed I’d done everything I could for her knowing what I knew at the time.
I know this sounds awful everyone but I’ve also done some preparation how I may feel and what I’d do, who I’d contact in the event of, for immediate support …... through to how we’d celebrate her life. Somehow it has helped me emotionally and released me to focus on what I needed to do to focus on me and my needs. I had felt stuck, trapped and paralysed by fear, I was now moving forwards, I accepted that I may lose her. I felt healthier, which must sound a bizarre way to get there to many. I was releasing myself from her suffering, feeling my pain and facing my fear. While my DD is slowly progressing her way through remission to moving to work through recovery stages I don’t kid myself that at some point in her future life she may hit crisis, I am however hopeful that she can reach out for help and my learning skills here contributes towards that. It's a process and sometimes we are not aware of the progress we make through working on and investing in ourselves until we have a period of time to look back on reflect and realise we are detaching with love. I have 3 years to look back. The dreaded 10% figure, I've come to accept it, and focus on the 90%.She is under our local psych team and receiving excellent care from them.
What kind of treatment, care pearcel? I think we know in our gut when they are receiving excellent care.
I'm glad you found us and posted.
Hope
WDx