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How to communicate after a contentious divorce... Following a contentious divorce and custody battle, there are often high emotion and tensions between the parents. Research shows that constant and chronic conflict between the parents negatively impacts the children. The children sense their parents anxiety in their voice, their body language and their parents behavior. Here are some suggestions from Dean Stacer on how to avoid conflict.
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Chaosnomore19
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
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« on: September 26, 2020, 01:33:52 AM »
I was divorced from my spouse with BPD and I don’t trust myself now. How do I make better choices from now on and see the true person.  I made a bad decision by trusting him over and over.  I felt we were the loves of our lives. He dumped me for a new favorite person and I’m just now getting beyond the devistation.  I don’t like myself now. I’m really hard on me. 
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« Reply #1 on: September 26, 2020, 04:47:03 PM »
It will happen, the self doubt and feeling of responsibility for the whole mess.
   Hang in there. It gets easier as time passes. And try to keep busy with work or whatever.
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JNChell
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« Reply #2 on: September 27, 2020, 04:48:37 PM »
First and foremost, I would suggest trying to slow down. The cortisol has you loopy. Are you still here?
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« Reply #3 on: September 27, 2020, 06:22:07 PM »
This is a very deep situation for you. How do you trust yourself? I wish that you could answer that for me. Lol.

How are you being hard on yourself? We gotta talk about this and get it the hell out of your way. There is too much life in front of you.
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