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Apollo123
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Single
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« on: October 08, 2020, 05:15:42 PM »

Got into a fight with my ex fiancée and she left our apartment. Little to no contact for a week and then she ghosted me for about 2 weeks. I assumed it was over and changed our relationship status on Facebook. She ghosted her family and friends as well. She texted me once during her ghosting and said I love you. I was blowing up her phone with long sorry texts and begging her to come back the whole time she was ghosting me but up until about a week ago I stopped and went no contact. She texted me last night “I’m sorry” and I chose to not reply. What will happen now that I am not replying? Will that get to her? Will she continue to contact me?
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
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« Reply #1 on: October 08, 2020, 07:17:35 PM »

Got into a fight with my ex fiancée and she left our apartment. Little to no contact for a week and then she ghosted me for about 2 weeks. I assumed it was over and changed our relationship status on Facebook.

OK, So you now have made it official that youre not in a relationship together.

She ghosted her family and friends as well.

So maybe this isnt just about you ? Maybe you have just become a trigger for her childhood trauma to surface?

She texted me once during her ghosting and said I love you. I was blowing up her phone with long sorry texts and begging her to come back the whole time she was ghosting me but up until about a week ago I stopped and went no contact.

Welcome to the push / pull of a dysfunctional relationship............So now you have changed your mind about the r/s?....and then changed it again?...... Mental illness or not, this appears confusing.

She texted me last night “I’m sorry” and I chose to not reply. What will happen now that I am not replying?

The same thing that has been happening all along. it appears the both of you are taking turns knocking each other off the pedestal.........What is it you wish to happen?

Will that get to her? Will she continue to contact me?

What exactly are you trying to get to her???.............. She will most likely wait till you text her something and do the same thing back to you, that you did to her................................. You really need to figure out what you would like to happen, and if its even possible. This is the detaching board. if your looking for better communication methods, other boards would suit you better. I look forward to you response. I wish you well, Peace
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