Hey Spam-
I’m more than a bit confused, as it seems you may be too. I think you posted on the Bettering board a few days ago after going to Las Vegas earlier this week - with your wife and her friend. Correct? In that post, you noted that your wife made accusations about you wanting to be with, or look at, other women.
From what you’re writing here, it seems your W may have reasons to make these statements regarding your potential interests in “other” women. In my experience, when married couples take “breaks”, it’s not with the intention to date, to “find someone Better, or “better looking”... but that’s just me...
So what’s going on here?
If you ever intended to really build a solid foundation with your W, meaning build *Trust*, this approach of “taking breaks” and dating is CLEARLY not working.
And if “pretty” or “prettier” is what you’re searching for, and nothing else matters, your search may be endless.
There’s a LOT more to love and relationships, a LOT more to marriage, at least I believe there ought to be.
Looking at yourself may be a good place to begin. Because with what you’re communicating right now, any decent woman would figure out the emptiness of the “pretty” angle quickly, not to mention how quickly you’ll hightail it back to your W; and most women would likely NOT settle for this level of nothing.
Sorry to be so harsh, but this was an odd post to read, especially right after what you wrote the other day.
It appears there’s more to work out than just your W’s behaviors. If memory serves, I believe we’ve addressed this before (with regard to the physical abuse). Has that cycle resolved itself? Ended?
Your thoughts?
Gems
I am talking about a break more than a year ago. Not recently. Im not just talking about pretty women. Thanks for you reply though. I appreciate the feedback.
I'm trying to exit Its been to dang much for me and its not getting better. And the blatant abuse and disrespect in a public setting is something I don't think I can get over. Im asking once you start dating again do you find that you don't have as strong as a connection and get bored?