Splitting in context of "favourite Person"

[SlyQQ]

Didn't think I'd be posting here again life is full of wonders.

Trying to get a grip on what is now called a "favourite person" in context of:

1> is it an aspect of splitting, and how so

2> other possible contexts for splitting / a favourite person,

e.g. Autism NPD etc

3> differences between splitting in BPD and other possible disorders.

thanks,

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Hi Sly,
I am not sure I fully understand your question, so I am posting a link in this forum on Splitting
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=62033.0
This is common in BPD .

It is hurtful especially when you make a boundary and the BPD doesn't like it.  One of many examples I could give: My adult son " threw me under the bus" to his Dad when he saw I couldn't afford to buy him a car when he first started college. When his Dad didn't come through , the son " threw him under the bus" to me.  This consisted of telling personal details about the other person, etc. 

[SlyQQ]

Thanks Swimmy,

Find a good friend of mine thinks she has BPD, ( she probably ticks about 8 out of nine boxes ) but I can't find it in myself to believe she has it.

On top of everything she told me she now has a favourite person, ( a common occurrence in BPD ) So I was scrambling for alternative explanations, and  I was wondering if anyone has experience of someone ( with or without BPD) having a favourite person so I could contextualize it.

P.s. I am quite familiar with the concept of splitting in theory and practice unfortunately