Hi LaCascade,
I’d like to join
Lucky Jim and welcome you to BPDFamily. I’m glad that you decided join us, you’re not alone. As I was reading your post it made me remember how I felt exactly the way you did.
Don’t be hard on yourself. We can’t beat ourselves up for things that have happened in the past.
I stopped asking myself why I was staying, I shut myself down. I have re-started speaking to a therapist and have started taking care of myself again and building up a new support network.
There’s probably a lot of things that have accumulated over the years and it may be that it’s getting harder to ignore your intuition.
You’re doing the right things and I’d like to add that you decided to join a support network. You’re getting things in place that will slowly help you move into an area that’s better for you mentally and emotionally.
Do you have kids together?