Home page of BPDFamily.com, online relationship supportMember registration here
June 17, 2021, 09:11:01 PM *
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
Board Admins: Harri, Once Removed
Senior Ambassadors: Cat Familiar, I Am Redeemed, Mutt, Turkish
  Help!   Boards   Please Donate Login to Post New?--Click here to register  
bing
Near or in break-up mode?
What Does it Take to Be in a Relationship
Is Your Relationship Breaking Down?
Escaping Conflict and the Karpman Drama Triangle
Emotional Blackmail: Fear, Obligation and Guilt (FOG)
95
Pages: [1]   Go Down
  Print  
Author Topic: Devastated  (Read 166 times)
Oliveoilpancake
Fewer than 3 Posts
*
Offline Offline

What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Broken up
Posts: 1


« on: May 10, 2021, 07:41:53 PM »

I’m two weeks NC with bf of two years. He has severe anxiety and many traits of bod and npd, but I don’t which for sure. He has had a number of hospitalizations throughout his lis life for suicidal ideation and is treated for GAD. His other behaviors suggest a disordered personality.

I love him so much and I miss him so much. I’m so worried about him. I wish I hadn’t ended it but I didn’t know what else to do anymore. I’m pretty sure he is with someone else now, which is why he doesn’t care about us anymore.

I have some issues of my own...abandonment. Maybe a quiet borderline but never diagnosed. I know I pushed him away too many times. I just want him back.
Logged
PLEASE - NO RUN MESSAGES
This is a high level discussion board for solving ongoing, day-to-day relationship conflicts. Members may appear frustrated but they are here for constructive solutions to problems. This is not a place for relationship "stay" or "leave" discussions. Please read the specific guidelines for this group.

Mutt
Senior Ambassador
*
Offline Offline

Gender: Male
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Divorced Oct 2015
Posts: 10309



WWW
« Reply #1 on: May 11, 2021, 12:09:23 PM »

Hi Oliveoilpancake,

Welcome

I’m glad that you decided to join us. I’m sorry don’t what you’re going through. Many people her can relate with wishing to get back together after the r/s had ended.

You said that you can push others away, often in these r/s dynamics there’s a push pull behavior from both sides. Had exhibited behaviors in the past where he pushed and then pulled?
Logged

"Let go or be dragged" -Zen proverb
Can You Help Us Stay on the Air in 2021?

Pages: [1]   Go Up
  Print  
 
Jump to:  

Our 2021 Financial Sponsors
We are all appreciative of the members who provide the funding to keep BPDFamily on the air.
12years
alterK
Andi1956
Anondad
Cnvi
doghouse
drained1996
EyesUp
Harri
JD2028
lovenature
Mac5
Methuen
Mommydoc
Mutt
old97
P.F.Change
Skip
snowglobe
Swimmy55
Teno
Turkish
wendydarling

Powered by MySQL Powered by PHP Powered by SMF 1.1.21 | SMF © 2006-2020, Simple Machines Valid XHTML 1.0! Valid CSS!