Sad seeking solace

[Carry on]

   just starting this journey of understanding and seeking ways to set boundaries and respond or not respond to the foul stuff she spews.   Carry On

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Sancho]

Well to you. We understand your journey - the incredible challenges and pain.
When you read the posts here you will find a strong message about caring for yourself. This can be a long journey and there are no quick fixes.

Reading the material here will help a lot. Setting boundaries and how to cope with the response when you do set them.

Most importantly I think is to - what I call - 'but a bubble around yourself'. This is what I try to do when the foul verbal abuse starts. But it's taken a long time to be able to not let it get to me.

Hope you can keep coming here - just helps knowing you are not alone.

[By Still Water]

Hello - I'm a new member, as well. It's difficult to deal with the unprovoked wrath spewed - so hurtful. The more I remind myself that he is ill, the less I take it personally. But grieving for a child's mental illness never really stops, I think. It just becomes more manageable as I grow older. Ours in approaching forty. What also helps us is to count the many things we did right, the times we comforted, gave out of ourselves, etc. I think - as parents - we need to be kind to ourselves, too.