Father’s Day

[LearningToCope12]

I need some advice for Father’s Day, what to do, how do you deal with it?
Long story made short:

My father has BPD = I grew up being emotionally abused. He is extremely manipulative and very very good at what he does.
For the past 2.5 years I have been in therapy (started because of PTSD) which has resulted in me becoming aware of him having BPD.
The past year due to covid there has been a large separation between myself and my parents.
He took covid as a time to isolate him and my mom.
(A few months before, I took my mom on a daughter mother trip which did not go over well with him.)

Anyways ...
he hasn’t spoken to me in a couple weeks,
Mother’s Day I stopped by with my sister for 20 minutes to drop off a gift
But I have NO idea what to do for Father’s Day. Which is this weekend.
I do not allow myself to be alone with them as even though I’m aware of his “games” I am still easily manipulated.
 

[GaGrl]

How w p or he react to perhaps a gift and card -- no verba contact?

Are you asking in concern for his reaction of your internal emotional need?