Close to giving up

[Margery]

My adult daughter received the diagnosis of BPD about two years ago.  I am the only person left in her life providing support.  She is extremely needy - I was told she is seven years old emotionally.  I am feeling like running away.  I have supportive people in  my life, but nobody really understands BPD and its effects on a mother.
 

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Sancho]

Y have surely come to the right place. There is no person in my day to day life who understands the enormous challenge it is caring for a BPD child. I used to try to help them to understand, but realised it only made it worse for me.

This is where I come when things are tough. I read other's posts and I know that there are people out there who know exactly how I am feeling right at this moment.

There are good resources here for you too. People here will confirm that the way forward is to start caring for yourself and developing the skills to relate to your daughter without damaging your own life and wellbeing.

If you want to you, perhaps you can tell us a bit more about your situation - does your daughter live with you, are there abusive outbursts, has there been the possibility of therapy etc.

We each have an individual situation, yet we share the reality of having a loved child with a serious mental health problem.

It's a tough journey . . . but it was a lot easier for me when I found this place.

[marla]

I feel like giving up on a daily basis, so I understand your pain. The only advise I can give is to take care of yourself! I have been dealing with my 21 y/o DD's illness/behavior for almost 10 years now. She might not have all the BPD traits anymore, but the ones she has are in FULL FORCE! I lost myself in her illness for quite a while. Be kind to yourself, we are here for you.